100 Things I Want To Teach My Daughter #69~Energy and Persistence conquer all things~

Energy and Persistence a few of the most important words of your life. We have been surrounded with so many amazing people in our lives who have shown us exactly what energy and persistence can do in ones life.
I can only pray that those people have left a mark on your life to show you anything is possible. I also hope that you can see through your father and my own life journey, that hard work, energy and persistence can get you through anything.

I have been preaching for years how important a healthy lifestyle is for your own success.

You are such a bright girl, and I know I don't need to preach this too you. But someday when you are so very down, please remember all you need is energy and the will to persevere.
With those two things in life, you can get through anything.

Good night fox, until tomorrow xo

The Grace in Grief~

Book writing days, just a little insert~


"Between you and I, I had been born with a Congential Heart Defect. My chest bore a zippered like scar that terrified me, what would the man who I was going to share my most intimate moments with think of these battle scars?

As a child, I had two open heart surgeries and had travelled to Toronto Sick Childrens hospital yearly for regualr checkups. I certainly was not new to childhood illness or trauma I too had suffered some pretty substancial medical conditions.

Unfortunatly that wasn't the only burden too bare. At the young age of 14, I had corrective back surgery for Scolisois. My spine was curving leaving me with a croocked back, unaligned hips and pain. Being a young teenager in the 80's didn't make having these challenges any easier for me. Back in those days there were no readily available enlightening quotes posted on Pinterest echoing words of wisdom. Anyone with a life changing event or illness were certainly not considered a Survior or a warrior. "~Christine Martz

With having been off Facebook know for sometime, I have had the chance to start writing again. I am loving it!
The words are coming to me so easily, and the story I am sharing with the world is beginning to take shape. I wanted to share with you just a little tid bit. My book is a about our life, it is a story of perseverance, love and triumph.

Although this book is our story, its also a story about finding the Grace in Grief.
Please stay tuned for further developments ;)

100 Things I Want To Teach My Daughter #70~ Life is a comedy; our mistake is that we live it as a tragedy

#70~Life is a comedy; our mistake is that we live it like a tragedy

Our beautiful freckled fox, this life lesson is probably the most important one out there. This is a legacy that both your father and I would like to leave to you and to Braden.
Promise us you will not take life too seriously. I mean there's a difference between following rules, abiding the law, living your life accordingly and laughing when you find yourself in times of uncertainty. Its ok to laugh when you are scared, its ok to laugh when you are nervous. Laughing is the best form of coping I have ever known to experience.
The things that your father and I have laughed at over the years would make some peoples skin crawl. But you know what, we have survived. There has never been any harm in laughing at a situation that causes you pain. Always try to find the humor in a terrible situation. It may not come initially to you, but eventually after the trauma and shock has worn off its ok to look around and laugh.

Now, not everyone will have that capability...laugh at them.

Do not ever stop laughing, there is nothing in life more important than your happiness. It won't matter what you are going through in life, the best moments will be those of laughter.
If you find yourself devastated, cry, cry hard and get it out. But then you wipe those tears, and turn that frown upside down. Put on an episode of Friends and you laugh.
Laugh until your stomach hurts...and then laugh a little more.
Laugh when your friends get drunk and make asses of themselves, laugh at your boss when they embarrass themselves during a conference meeting.
Laugh at your father and I when we don't know how to use the new TV remote or when we fight over something stupid.
Whatever life is throwing at you try to find the humor.

We have a generation today that tends to get upset and dramatic very easily. They take comments, messages and communication defensively and far too sensitively. Feelings get hurt without intent, people are always looking for someone to blame their insecurities on.
We need thicker skin, stop taking things so personally and (wo)man up.
Every little hurt feeling is faced with drama, and so many misconceptions are perceived as tragedy. Don't fall into that with people.

This generation needs too stop being so sensitive and realize the world does not revolve around them.
Where did the idea of having a sense of humor go?
Why can't we laugh at ourselves or/and others these days?
Although you may find yourself in some very serious life situations fox, be advised that finding the moment of clarity in a situation can be simple.
And with simple will come calm, shortly after the calm you will find humor.
That moment in an instant when you can sit back, smile or laugh is when you will begin to heal. Regardless of the circumstances, when you find yourself able to smile that is when you will know you're on your way to happiness.

Say No Politely and Quickly~ 100 Things i Want to Teach My Daughter #71

#71 ~Say No Politely and Quickly

My fox, this is something that I have not been very good at. Through my 30's I spent so much time doing things for so many people and not feeling like I had the right to say no.

I actually think you have a pretty balanced outlook on what your boundaries are and honestly you have even taught me that its ok to say no. 
I just hope as you get older and more people start to demand your time and attention that you continue to filter out all your Yes's.

Sometimes we as women tend to take on a lot more than our plates can handle. Its a terrible feeling when the plate "runnith over" and you don't feel in control.

Its so very important fox that when you don't want to do something that you have the strength and will to say no, and not feel you owe an explanation.

NO is a one word sentence. When you use it correctly no one will feel the need to challenge you. Short and sweet my darling, and walk away without regret.

My point being simple, say no without feeling the need to explain why. We grow up in a society were we feel we owe others an explanation.
The truth be told, we don't need to explain when we say no to someone. I mean its clearly nice to give someone a reason why you may not be available to them. But keep it short, a good friend won't feel the need for a song and dance. A good friend will trust in you and understand your answer even if its a no.

Do not become a people pleaser Fox, your life will be so much more peaceful if you do what you want in life for you.

 

Well we are slowly getting through this list of 100 things I want to teach my daughter...thank god.

I am not really posting in any kind of order as far as what is the most important lesson in life. But this one is definitely in the top 10.

I'm a little out of practice with writing these posts, I just didn't have the words forming well this evening. But I suppose this lesson is pretty self explanatory.

And in all honesty, this post will just be a reminder for when you are a 40 something mommy, wife and professional just trying to make the world everyone lives in just a tad more easy. Hopefully you won't make the same mistakes that I made and find yourself exhausted in your mid forties. I don't really regret a lot of my Yes's, I have had an amazing life. I have a great husband, amazing kids and a great group of friends who all through the years have received a well deserved yes from me.
But with that, I am learning to say no. The no's didn't come as easy as the yes's..but they are coming and I am totally ok with that~
Good night my loves, until next time God Bless~