Sunday, January 3, 2010

How much is too much?


Last night we stayed in, i was so happy! Just exhausted after 2 weeks of too much entertaining. I do love to entertain because there is nothing better than a house full of laughter. This year however seemed like I had more on plate than usual. I think that was due to the surprise 13th birthday party we hosted for Kailey, and then the girls ringette get together...those were extra house parties this holiday season. Even though I am tired from the festivities I wouldn't change a thing.
Its been nice having my husband home through the holidays, we have gotten so much done around the house, this week we will tackle painting Kaileys new bedroom. I also need to start running again, i still have 20 pounds to lose..its sooo much harder the older you get. So my week will consist of painting and running!
I had an incident in my house last night, which really threw me off. I never know how involved I should be in my childrens affairs. Obviously I want to protect them from what seems to be at times a cruel world, but how much is too much?
What are the boundries and guidelines? I do my best to provide them with a close knit family, a wonderful extended family, good friends, consistent discipline and hopefully a stong sense of self. When issues arise in our home based on normal teenage problems, I immediately want to solve their problem and protect them. I give advice, but then wonder if my advise is too grown up for them and i wonder if maybe they don't care how I would handle the situation. I am not sure if i handled this situation correctly? My solution was to remove all things that cause the drama, phones, internet, computer, texting..etc..it was a very quiet day, much needed for all! I think I still need to return to the problem and have an open conversation..maybe i should listen more and stop trying to fix things? There is nothing worse than seeing your child upset with tears, childhood is meant to be happy...but in the real world I do understand that problems, conflict and disagreements are all part of growing up and becoming independant.
I will return...we need to chat, maybe over a cup of tea? It will be ok!
On a happier note, Kailey and her ringette team won against Ajax today!! It was sweet, amazing game...they are starting the year off perfectly with their first game of 2010..a winner!! Way to go Turbo's!

1 comment:

  1. I really have no idea how much is too much.
    I think there can't be too much if it's beneficial.
    I love your help!! :)

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